بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
Dedicated to asma who was so eagerly awaiting the next post and to veryberry2 because I miss your comments.
Nani had gone home yesterday and the emptiness in the house was palpable. However this did not last long as Dadi has just arrived. If you think nani was something, dadi is something else. Just look at how she arrived for instance, she walked in carrying a Harrods hand bag, clad in an Inaya dress and Sharqiaa Scarf and wearing heels, yes you heard right heels. I definitely didn’t fall under her.
Dadi is also a very sociable person. She loves company. Dadi probably has plans to invite the whole neighbourhood for tea tomorrow… And just as that thought came to mind dadi turned to greet me and said, “Assalaamu Alaykum. How are you doll? Maybe we should have a party. Where’s your friends? It seems a bit quite and lonely here so why don’t we invite everyone for tea tomorrow.” The one aspect of Islam that dadi is very particular about is Salaam.
قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: “إن أولى الناس بالله من بدأهم بالسلام”
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Indeed the person nearest to Allah is one who is the first to make salaam.”
Dadi is quite modern and I guess she’s the reason daddy has his extremist issues. At first glance a person’s opinion of her will not be very good, it will probably be something like ‘look at this old lady, one foot in the grave and still chasing dunya,’ but who are we to judge?
We often hear people saying don’t judge me. When hearing this it doesn’t mean that it is an admission of the persons guilt. It actually means that you are at fault because you have no right to judge and be suspicious of a person’s actions. Allah alone will judge between us on the day of Qiyamah. There is an amazing incident which clearly outlines that we have no right to judge as only Allah knows what’s really going on.
Sultan Murad IV, the Sultan of the Ottoman Empire from 1623-1640, would often anonymously go into the midst of the people and see their state. One evening, he felt an uneasiness in himself and the urge to go out. He called for his head of security and out they went. They came to a busy vicinity, and found a man lying on the ground. The Sultan prodded him but he was dead and the people were going about their own business. Nobody seemed to care about the dead man lying on the ground.
The Sultan called upon the people. They didn’t recognise him and asked him what he wanted. He said, “Why is this man lying dead on the ground and why does no one seem to care? Where is his family?” They replied, “He is so and so, the drunkard and fornicator!”The Sultan said,“Is he not from the Ummah of Muhammad ﷺ? Now help me carry him to his house”
The people carried the dead man with the Sultan to his house and once they reached, they all left. The Sultan and his assistant remained. When the man’s wife saw his dead body, she began weeping. She said to his dead body, “May Allah have mercy on you! O friend of Allah! I bear witness that you are from the pious ones.”
The Sultan was bewildered. He said, “How is he from the pious ones when the people say such and such about him? So much so that no one even cared he was dead!”
She replied, I was expecting that. My husband would go to the tavern every night and buy as much wine as he could. He would then bring it home and pour it all down the drain. He would then say, “I saved the Muslims a little today.” He would then go to a prostitute, give her some money and tell her to close her door till the morning. He would then return home for a second time and say, “Today, I saved a young woman and the youth of the believers from vice.”
The people would see him buying wine and they would see him going to the prostitutes and they would consequently talk about him. One day I said to him, “When you die, there will be no one to bathe you, there will be no one to pray over you and there will be no one to bury you!”
He laughed and replied, “Don’t fear, the Sultan of the believers, along with the pious ones shall pray over my body.”
The Sultan began to cry. He said, “By Allah! He has said the truth, for I am Sultan Murad. Tomorrow we shall bathe him, pray over him and bury him.” And it so happened that the Sultan, the scholars, the pious people and the masses prayed over him.
We judge people by what we see and what we hear from others. Only if we were to see what was concealed in their hearts, a secret between them and their Lord. If Allah knows, why does it matter who knows and who doesn’t know?!
“O you who believe, abstain from many of the suspicions. Some suspicions are sins. And do not be curious (to find out faults of others), and do not backbite one another. Does one of you like that he eats the flesh of his dead brother? You would abhor it. And fear Allah. Surely Allah is Most-Relenting, Very-Merciful.” (49:12)