21. A lesson of Ashurah

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ

Basheera’s P.O.V.

Khawla invited us over to her house today because apparently Dadi was feeling very lonely. I arrived at the house to find it full of people. I guess I should have expected it because we are talking about Dadi after all. Thankfully Dadi didn’t expect us to do anything and entertained her own guests.

Now we were sitting in Khawla’s room and I listened in amazement as Khawla confided in us all that had happened recently leading to her decision to go into niqaab. All that she said left me speechless. For once Hafsa responded before me, “My mother’s been hinting that she also wants me to wear the niqaab but I kept brushing it off because I was kinda scared. People don’t realise that it is a difficult thing to do and they make it even more difficult with their funny remarks. Now that you also want to go into niqaab, I guess I’ll join you. I think it will be much easier to face it together.”

Khawla waved her hand in front of my face before questioning, “Hello, anybody there? Oh wait, Why am I asking? I should just be enjoying the silence for once without your unstoppable chatter… Okay, what’s wrong?”

“Nothing. I was just thinking…” I replied. I know I’m not pious or anything and women in niqaab for some reason are generally expected to be. I recently read somewhere that to wear the niqaab is waajib. Yeah, I am a bookworm. If it is so important to wear the niqaab, then why do people generally brush it off and act like it is something which is only optional. My main fear is, because it makes people think that you are pious they justify their actions saying there’s nothing wrong in doing it because a certain person did it. I hate these stereo types and the way people are always trying to dump their sin on someone else’s shoulders

“…There is no way you two are doing this without me. I’m also going to do this even though I know it’s not going to be easy. It’s waajib so we have to do it. You know there are some women who make it look good. I’m going to be one of them. We better put in an order to Rafahiyyah for a Bedoon Essm niqaab with the swarovski embellished charm and google couple of niqaab tutorials.” Khawla and Hafsa just smiled at me. A smile which gave away their thoughts. I know that Niqaab should be as simple and unattracting as possible but atleast I’m trying. Hafsa soon eradicated my earlier fears by telling me:

When Firown had challenged Musa عليه السلام and presented the competition between the Magicians and Musa عليه السلام, the Magicians all turned up dressed like Musa عليه السلام. They did this as a way to mock Musa عليه السلام.When it came time to compete, the Magicians went first and Musa عليه السلام countered with the miracle of Allah.

All of the Magicians accepted Musa عليه السلامas a Prophet and believed in Allah as soon as they witnessed the miracle. Such was their Imaan, that when Firown said he was going to kill them, they all said that they didn’t care and would rather die. Firown coudn’t believe how strongly they believed, that he actually thought that they had been planning this all along and executed them all.

Think about it, one moment they are on Pharoahs side against Musa عليه السلامand Allah and the next they are in Jannah having died as matyrs. What was the reason for their hidayat? They weren’t just given Hidayat but matyrdom as well. What act did they do that Allah loved so much?

They came dressed like Musa عليه السلام. They immitated the beloved of Allah. Allah loved this act of immitating his beloved that he not only guided them but blessed them with matyrdom as well. Subhanallah, by just dressing like Musa عليه السلامthey attracted the mercy of Allah, even though they were clear enemies, and Allah gave them such Imaan, they told Firown they would rather die then leave Allah.

For emulating Musa عليه السلام in mockery, they were able to attract so much mercy and pleasure from Allah, now imagine what kind of mercy and pleasure we would attract by emulating the Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه ?

This strenghthened my decision to go into niqaab. Thinking that if Allah would reward me even a fraction of what he awarded these people with, made me excited to do it. I will be immitating the sahaabiyah so Insha Allah I will be united with them in jannah. Hafsa added “I know you love reading so check out this article on the Uswatul Muslimah website. I’ve told you the reward of immitating someone close to Allah, this article however is on the dangers of immitating the enemies of Allah.

Lesson of ‘Aashuraa – Uswatul Muslimah

“Oppose the Jews”

While reaping the virtues of fasting on the day of ‘Aashuraa, an important lesson is emphasised by means of this fast. This is the lesson of firmly maintaining one’s Islamic identity at all times, totally refraining from imitating the kuffaar (disbelievers) and even avoiding any resemblance with them as far as possible. When Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was informed that the Jews also fast on the tenth of Muharram, he instructed the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) thus: “Fast on the day of ‘Aashuraa and oppose the Jews, by fasting one day before it or one day after it (as well)” (Musnad Ahmad #2154). It is obvious that the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) were not observing the fast of ‘Aashuraa in order to imitate the Jews. It was a sheer coincidence that the Jews also were found to be observing this fast. Nevertheless, since this unintentional resemblance was avoidable by keeping an additional fast together with the tenth, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) asked the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) to fast on the ninth as well.

The Curse of Allah Ta‘ala

Imitating “others,” which is known as tashabbuh, is completely forbidden. So abhorred is this practice that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has declared: “The one who imitates a nation is from among them” (Sunan Abi Dawood #4031). Even one gender imitating the other has been denounced. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) cursed those women who imitate men (in their appearance, dressing, actions, etc.) and those men who imitate women” (Saheeh Bukhaari #5885). Thus to adopt the distinct style, fashion and way of the kuffaar in any aspect of life will be tashabbuh, and thus haraam.


Imitating the kuffaar can occur in any and every aspect of life. However, the most obvious and apparent is in the aspect of appearance and dressing. The aspect of appearance and dressing is not a trivial matter. The banning of Muslim girls in some countries from wearing scarves to school speaks volumes of the fact that Islamic dressing and appearance have a great impact on others. Hence they wish to ban the visible identity of Muslims.

Thus when the dressing and appearance taught by Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is not adhered to, and the kuffaar are imitated, at times it becomes difficult or even impossible to distinguish a Muslim from a Jew, Christian or an Atheist. One would not even venture to make salaam since one would not know whether the person is Yusuf or some John, Faatimah or some Jane.

Love to Resemble Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam)

The fast of ‘Aashuraa highlights the importance of avoiding any resemblance to the Jews and Christians. No person prefers to resemble the one who is his enemy. Rather, he will prefer to resemble those whom he loves. A true follower of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) will love to resemble, in fact imitate, his beloved. He would love to be identified with Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), not with those who are the enemies of Islam and the Muslims.

Who do we Resemble?

Therefore one should calmly consider the following: Does a Muslim woman clad in her tops and pants, or other tight-fitting garments and Western fashions, resemble the pure and chaste daughters and wives of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) or is she closer in resemblance to the shameless women of the decadent West? Does such dressing identify one with Muslims or with the enemies of Islam and the Muslims?

Teacher and Clown

In everyday life one could possibly imitate many people. A teacher could go to school and imitate a clown in his dressing and behaviour. However, he does not do so since such imitation, or even resemblance, is demeaning for a teacher. Indeed he will dress as a teacher dresses. Likewise, every Muslim and true follower of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is a teacher and an inviter to Islam by his actions and deeds. He will not imitate or resemble those who are astray and thus appear to be one of them. He will conduct every aspect of his life from eating, sleeping and dressing to aspects of marriage, business or even running the state — in the manner that an inviter to Islam must conduct himself. A true Mu’min and an inviter to Islam can only choose to imitate Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) and adopt his teachings.

Thus while observing the fast of ‘Aashuraa, let us take this important lesson and totally shun imitating the Jews and Christians. Let us adhere to resembling Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) and pious people of the Ummah. In this lies our success of this world and the Hereafter.

“Nabi صلى الله عليه hated to even immitate the kuffaar in fasting, yet we take it as nothing to immitate them in trivial things that make no difference to our life here or in the Aakhirah. There are so many who question what’s wrong with wearing a saari cloak, cutting their hair, wearing jeans, wearing ties etc. You know I was actually contemplating some of these but I’m so glad you gave me to read this article before I could, Jazakallah Hafsa. So, when are we doing this? You know what? Ashurah is coming up soon, I know it’s a bit too soon but it’s the perfect opportunity to start our journey into niqaab. We should download a few kitaabs on Niqaab and …” And I proceeded to talk continuosly until it was time to go. I had to make up for my period of silence and most of all I had to make Khawla regret her statement!

I’m quite hectic at the moment so dont expect the next post before Sunday. This post is longer than usual to make up for it. Please forgive me if I have offended in anyway and keep me in your special duas.



Just aspiring to inspire through the pen, or should I say, keyboard. May Allah Ta’ala accept my efforts and make it a source of Hidayah for the Ummah.

12 thoughts on “21. A lesson of Ashurah

  1. Totally on point. . Couldn’t have said it better. . It is sad that hijaab & niqaab has become so commercialised. . It’s ridiculous that niqaabs are branded & pricey as well. . Sure the quality is good but the prices are too much. . Then u get the name branded abayas that cost so much as well even if it just be plain black. . I don’t get the point of all the bling bling either. . Cos u just attracting attention to yourself which ruins the essence of being in hijaab & niqaab to begin with. . May Allah guide 1 & all. . Gonna miss your posts. . Take care.

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    1. I totally agree. That’s a rumor many fall for as the quality is not always the best. Shaytaan gradually draws us ino his trap. I guess I shouldn’t talk too much as I’m guilty too. Ameen. We all need Allah’s guidance and help. Will miss you too. Insha Allah.

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  2. Excellent reminder dear sister. I remember an apa once clarifying the importance of wearing niqaab by saying that it is as necessary as reading our salaah.
    May Allah guide us all to follow His commands completely.

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  3. Beautiful lessons – ما شاء الله
    In these times of fitna , hijab and niqab r such neccessities …

    Its really wonderful how u incorporate the lessons into ur storyline .. And also what is currently happening !!

    جزاك اللهُ خيراً

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  4. Jazakallah for the post!!!
    Sooo true……….Thnx far alll the reminders:)
    May Allah ta’ala make us from among the pious muslimah’s in this world n the nxt—-AMEEN—-

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