بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
Hours passed by and still no sign of Dadi. Asr time was almost over and Dadi was still not back. Panicked, I went to see if mummy knows anything but she didn’t. Khalid and Daddy didn’t know anything either. We tried phoning Dadi but she wasn’t answering her phone. I was really starting to freak out. The thoughts of what could have happened that were flashing through my mind were only making me more anxious. Where could she be?
I was really panicking. What if something happened to her and it was all my fault because I had scared her and given her a shock of her life. I could have broken the news in a gentler manner. I could have been less rude. ‘Ya Allah, please let her be fine.’ I kept on whispering as I paced up and down feeling very jittery, worried and uneasy.
Looking at the clock my fears began to increase. There is only 20 minutes left for maghrib time to set in and dadi is still not back and …then I heard the back door opening and Dadi walks in. She calmly turns to Khalid and says, “Please get my parcels from the car,” before rushing of to go read her Asr salaah.
I didn’t know what to do, what to think. My emotions were changing rampantly. On seeing her my worry and unease changed to relief, when realisation struck it changed to irritation, followed by the urge to laugh hysterically and then I was seething. She suddenly goes MIA then just walks in as of nothing is wrong. Everybody was fretting over where she could be and we were so worried about her and she went ‘Shopping!’ I was so frustrated. I didn’t know whether to scream or laugh or burst into tears. I was getting myself so worked up and begining to blame myself for everything that could have happened to Dadi while she was having a ball a time doing some retail therapy.
Luckily Dadi had went to read salaah because I don’t know if I would have been able to control my tongue. I was so exasperated at that moment that I just wanted to scream. Trying to calm myself down I realised that it was wrong of Dadi to make us so worried and not inform us of her whereabouts but I was over reacting. Getting angry and hysterical was not going to make a difference anyway.
The first step to overcoming anger was already done i.e. move out of the presence of the person who is making you angry. Anger is from shaytaan so I recited Ta’awwuz in my effort to control my anger. Since shaytaan is made of fire and fire is put out by water, water actually helps to extinguish and control anger therefore I drank a glass of water and also went to make wudhu for this reason. Alhamdulillah by then I had calmed down and began smiling sheepishly to myself at how silly my earlier reaction was. Yeah, what Dadi did was wrong but I really over reacted. Basheera that drama queen is really rubbing off on me. If I hadn’t yet overcome my anger the next step I would have taken is sit or lying down as it comes in this hadith but thankfully it didn’t come to that.
عَنْ أَبِي ذَرٍّ قَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لَنَا إِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ وَهُوَ قَائِمٌ فَلْيَجْلِسْ فَإِنْ ذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الْغَضَبُ وَإِلَّا فَلْيَضْطَجِعْ
Abu Dhar reported: The Messenger of Allah صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said “If one of you is angry when he is standing, let him sit down so that the anger will leave him. Otherwise, let him lie down.”
I managed to calm down almost completely and was even able to greet Dadi with a small smile before supper. Then was the fun part, unpacking all the parcels. Oh, you should see the things she bought! Dadi has awesome taste! Do you know what the best part is? Most of it was for me! Dadi said “Now that you gone into full abaya and niqaab it doesn’t mean you have to dress like an old lady. There’s nothing wrong with dressing up in the house. Infact you supposed to dress up more and even smarter in the house but nowadays everyone wants to do everything backwards.” And that’s how we spent the rest of the night, sizing on and trying out all Dadi’s purchases.